Getting Stuck and how to get Unstuck

Feeling stuck and lost are the emotional, mental and physical manifestations of beliefs.

A belief is just a repeated thought that is concentrated so much that it manifests into form as “real”. Beliefs only exist because we have created and confirmed and maintained them.

Beliefs can exist on a personal level, ie: I’m unworthy’, “I am poor”. But they also exist on the nation or even world consciousness level, ie: “We need to protect our borders”, “Muslims are terrorists’. If enough people invest in the concept (or are relentlessly manipulated through fear to accept it), it grows and grows into a belief, often existing within a system of beliefs that support it, ie: “the world is unsafe!’ This reality exists because the majority have chosen to agree for it to exist and we have repeated the thoughts that created it, in order to maintain its existence.

The wise ones say that things exist but have no inherent existence. We are such creative beings that we have created powerful beliefs that many do not question: even the things we think are inherent, like human rights and equality. These beliefs can be so culturally ‘ingrained’ that it is hard to go against the flow. We have created whole institutions around our beliefs. Schools exist in physical form because we believe that ‘education is important’ and this is what we have come up with and maintained as a collective. Marriage exists because we believe that a man and a woman together is ‘natural’ and they should commit …and then have a baby in this partnership (of course there are more open minded versions around the world thank goodness). We are so creative we then create more and more rules and beliefs within our institutions: Priests can’t be sexually active, wealthy or married because these worldly things are ‘wrong’ and should be removed as they would just distract and prevent them from reaching spiritual heights. They did not realise that we need to be grounded, rooted and secure and balanced in all ways physically in order to expand in awareness and spiritualiry.

But trying to go outside the boundary of group norms and cultural beliefs can be tricky.

People publicly proclaim and defend a belief. We love it when we find others who support our beliefs because then we feel vindicated, safe, comfortable. We know the routine. It’s easy to know and be told what to do and how to think. It’s far easier to know that you just need to show up, be on time, wear the accepted clothes and share the beliefs of everyone around you, even if you all complain and hate what you do day after day.

Just questioning some beliefs will be met with ridicule, condemnation, anger, disgust or worse. That’s because it threatens the safe and comfortable world of not having to think too much about changing beliefs. Most people like to think they are ‘different’ to everyone else but are usually more comfortable with security, predictability and boredom than risking insecurity, disappointment and challenge. Just the idea of change is scary enough.

This exists in all areas…not just the everyday existence of the 9 to 5 tax paying ‘decent and fair-minded’ battlers. It also exists amongst the more spiritually minded people and even amongst the smaller groups that think they exist outside any system. We ALWAYS exist within group belief boundaries, no matter the group we belong to or its size.

So how does all of this relate to being stuck?

When your level of consciousness starts to rise and you start to question things …but you are still living within the very belief systems and individuality-limiting institutions and groups, …you start to feel different. This is really, really scary! No one wants to be alone, outcast, side-lined. So even though the ground beneath you (that held you up and supported you for so long) starts to crumble beneath your feet, you stay. You just start scrabbling at all the broken pieces to put them back in place under your feet and be comfortable again. You deny that anything is wrong “it’s not so bad..it’s better than…”, or you delay, “next year I’ll…I’ll just wait til….,” or you drink or take drugs or do anything other than leaving the existence that you have outgrown, but is still safe and familiar ….and on and on it goes.

You are stuck.

Unable to go back due to outgrowing the old, unable to move forward due to fear of the unknown.

How to get unstuck?

What Pema Chodron calls ‘unconditional confidence’ and ‘shaky tenderness’ towards yourself are what is required. The ability to face the strong waves of sideway glances or ridicule and massive changes, and keep getting up until eventually the waves don’t seem to affect you so much anymore. Accepting that you think differently and you are changing and that is perfectly OK. Being kind to yourself and patient with the changes. Getting out of the negative self-talk patterns by punctuating the sob-stories with silence and the breath.

Take deep breaths and smile.

All things are possible and you are one of the brave. All possibilities are open to you.

And welcome to the beginning of your ascension 🙂

 

 

 

 

Day 16- Ascension 5 Tarot Reading

Oh My God! This is just getting worse and worse. I just gave myself a tarot reading and said ‘No matter what, I will listen to this’ then I laid out the cards UPSIDE DOWN! The entire spread was negative and horrible but because I asked for Truth, honesty, love and compassion and also that I would accept it no matter what I now have no escape from the messages.

The spread and interpretation:

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  1. What’s happening now_Page of wands reversed: delays, talking but not doing it. (Answer: Work Hard towards the goal, you can do anything!)
  2. What’s crossing me for good or bad_King of Pentacles reversed: wealth and opulence and laziness, complains but does nothing to change it. (Answer: Get cracking and be a business minded person…there will be success through self worth of a job well done, action required)
  3. The root cause or basis and inner feelings_9 of wands reversed:looking back and focussing on the negatives (Answer: Stop delaying and start doing!)
  4.  Past…what’s leaving_3 of wands reversed: Can’t move forward, delays, not right timing (Answer: Make decisions!)
  5. What crowns me, the possible outcomes if nothing changes_Death reversed: refusing change, stagnation, fear and resentment, holding on to the old. (Answer: Look differently like the Hanged Man, change your perspective!).
  6. Near future_Wheel of Fortune reversed: Life has its ups and downs but all things change, get ready for change (Answer: meditate and go within for wise counsel, reassess, write and plan then shine your light on the world)
  7. My own negative feelings_8 of pentacles reversed: Lacking commitment to the work at hand. (Answer:Don’t give up! Look long term and work steadily towards the goal, it will be fruitful!)
  8. The feelings of others around me_Magician reversed: ungrounded, scattered thoughts and energy, feeling empty. (Answer: It’s not working so get back to intuition, go back to being the Fool: take the leap of faith in innocence and trust and have no fear of not knowing)
  9. My own positive feelings_Judgment reversed: I DONT KNOW! there’s no clarity. Self doubt and self judgement. Overly hard or critical of myself. Trying to avoid external  judgement through inaction, fear of not passing the test/ failing. (Answer: Be creative, proactive and have fun like the Sun, don’t take life so seriously. There has been momentum building , now is not the time for shyness, doubt, hesitation)
  10. The Outcome_Queen of swords reversed: No insight, critical of self and others, stirs up drama, bitter and resentful. (Answer: Be swift and quick witted and smart. See an opportunity where no-one else does and go for it with all your efforts…mentally, physically and emotionally!)

Stuck in old ways, thinking negative things about people I have already left..secretly happy when things go wrong and dramas because that helps to justify my decisions. Not liking people but still thinking about them, even talking about them even though I never see them. Stirring up problems and drama.

Not committing…thinking everything is already very comfortable and safe and cosy and scared of moving out and onwards. Stuck in old patterns of thinking and scared of change. Wanting the best of both worlds ..my dog, my girls and family and friends but also dissing them and complaining that I am stuck…that they keep me stuck. Which they don’t at all. I’m quite capable of doing whatever I want.

For our move…I thought of all the things that would go wrong rather than really planning for the changes ahead. I ‘knew’ Herve would make it happen, I sat on my laurels and did nothing much in preparation. I focussed on the past, ate and watched videos.

Uncommitted to my new life..still dwelling on the old. Not showing a disciplined approach to the work…one minute saying how brilliant I am and the next doing a little bit of work before relaxing and rewarding myself with whatever…coffees, movies etc. Extremely lazy and not showing much dedication to what I want,…because I’m not sure I do want it…I find reasons why I don;”t do things or even why it would not be a good idea to have them be successful. And then complain because I am not successful!

I know this is related to my lucid dream in the last post…I need to stay out of that pool and start looking to the future with positive thinking and manifesting…by actually DOING what needs to be done!

I will relax into the new way of being and thinking…I am Light and Love and I have support. I can grow and change. I am capable and confident and smart and creative. I can be disciplined and active. I will lose the weight, get active with my business and start the new journey ahead. No more mucking around in self indulgent nonsense and no more getting involved with gossip and drama and bad karma.

 

What to do?

  • Work Hard towards the goal, you can do anything! 
  • Get cracking and be a business minded person…there will be success through self worth of a job well done, action required so start putting your mental clarity towards it, stop moping around feeling lost. 
  • Stop delaying and start doing!
  • Make decisions!
  • Look differently like the Hanged Man, change your perspective and look at things with new eyes!
  • Meditate and go within for wise counsel, reassess, write and plan then shine your light on the world
  • It’s not working so get back to intuition, go back to being the Fool: take the leap of faith in innocence and trust and have no fear of not knowing
  • Don’t give up! Look long term and work steadily towards the goal, it will be fruitful!
  • It’s not working so get back to intuition, go back to being the Fool: take the leap of faith in innocence and trust and have no fear of not knowing
  • Be creative, proactive and have fun like the Sun, don’t take life so seriously
  • Be swift and quick witted and smart. See an opportunity where no-one else does and go for it with all your efforts…mentally, physically and emotionally!

Forge ahead and be a successful business woman…painter, healer, reader, writer, spiritual guide.

Thank you Tarot!